Postpartum care is easier said than done. In a fantasy world our nest would be completely prepared, we will have the support we need, food will be available, the house will be tidy and the baby will not be fussy. But reality is, it might be the complete opposite. We recommend you focus on the things you can control. This includes your immediate environment, who is allowed to come over and when and your own body.
1. Lower your expectations and focus on what is in front of you. For the first 2-3 weeks the last thing you want to do is stress out about things that are out of your control.
2. Say NO. People may want to visit and see the baby but if you are not up for visitors it is OK to say NO. Instead recommend them ordering food for you or set up a date later on when you feel you have more control.
3. Say YES. People may visit to see the baby. Use that time to take a shower, stretch, take a nap, eat a big meal without interruption or get comfortable. DO NOT use their time there to clean or cook. Ask them to do it!
4. Have a postpartum trolly handy with pads, cleansing spray, wipes, snacks, water, ointments, comfy socks and a pair of clean clothes.
5. Invest in a humidifier, fan, filter or natural aromatics for your main living space. This is important because you need all your senses clear and comfortable. These items keep the air clean, less stuffy and cool for you and baby.
6. Nap when baby naps. Again, this is all about not stressing. This recommendation is canon, especially if you are breastfeeding every two hours. You will need to get your rest whenever you can.
7. Speak to your therapist, doula, midwife, or someone you love and trust about your fears, anxieties and concerns before the baby comes and have that person available for your postpartum. Having a newborn is not easy, no matter how many children you have. Having someone to talk to will be extremely helpful in your postpartum mental health.